Not all parents are ready to agree to have a hamster, let alone a dog. Requests and persuasion sometimes do not bring the desired result at all, so the only way out for the child is to prove that he is completely ready to take responsibility for the life of the pet. There are several ways to beg your parents for a dog, but this will require a lot of effort and, first of all, adjusting your own behavior.
For a child, a dog is the most faithful and reliable friend
“I want a dog” - a game or a conscious decision
Often, many parents, especially mothers, flatly refuse to buy the dog that their child dreams of. A negative answer arises from fears that the child will eventually play enough with the animal and all responsibilities for caring for it will fall on the shoulders of adults. That is why it is worth figuring out whether this is really a conscious decision or whether the dog will serve only as a temporary toy.
Most often, children ask to buy them a dog if:
- they lack attention, and a four-legged friend in this case is associated with an ideal friend;
- I want to feel protected;
- a partner for games is needed;
- stop being shy about yourself and learn to meet people;
- there is a need to take care of someone.
If this is so, then probably his desire is a conscious decision, and not a game that will become completely uninteresting after a short time.
Attention! If the desire to get a dog arises immediately after communicating with a family where there is already a cheerful four-legged friend, then in most cases this indicates a temporary impulse.
A dog in the house: looking for advantages
Walking with a four-legged friend in nature is not only interesting, but also plays a huge role in the development of a child.
In such a difficult matter as persuading parents to buy a dog, you can use the advantages of keeping it. Chief among them will be the reason to limit the hours devoted to communication on social networks and online games. The pet will have to be walked twice a day, and even more often in the first months. Adults will like that the child will spend time in the fresh air, and not watching TV or playing online games. Other undeniable advantages of buying a puppy include:
- Transition to the correct daily routine and active lifestyle. While raising a puppy, it is impossible to remain a sedentary person living according to a free schedule. You will have to forget about late walks or late-night movie watching and go to bed on time. After all, in the morning you need to get up at dawn to walk the dog.
- Improved emotional state. “Smaller friends” are able to influence people’s moods, relieving stress and inducing a feeling of happiness. With the advent of a pet, apathy, melancholy, irritability or a feeling of uncertainty will be replaced by a continuous flow of positive emotions.
- Family cohesion. Walking together or playing together with a pet brings children and parents closer together. It becomes easier for them to find common interests and soon with the appearance of a dog, all misunderstandings will be a thing of the past, and boring family videos will turn into real comedies in which the dog will be the main character.
- A loyal comrade and a good defender. This argument will be the most powerful in convincing parents. The dog will always keep company while the adults are at work or away, and in case of danger it will act as a faithful guard, driving away hooligans from the owner or scaring off thieves who decide to break into the apartment.
- Developing good skills. Caring for animals shapes the qualities of a successful person: responsibility, sociability, and the ability to concentrate on the task at hand.
- Making friends with similar interests. A dog is a great excuse to meet new people. If a person has difficulty communicating or has few close friends, he will change this situation. Walking with your dog in the park, visiting exhibitions or other events, you can meet interesting people who are ready to share the necessary experience about keeping a pet.
- Good health. Walking in the fresh air and playing sports with your pet helps maintain normal weight and increases physical endurance.
Parents, of course, want their son or daughter to be healthy, successful and happy. The only thing that can stop them from buying a dog is the need to take care of it. If the desire to have a puppy is real and not temporary, then convincing them of this will not be difficult.
What to ask yourself before asking for a puppy
Not all children understand that a pet is a big responsibility, because over time it becomes a full-fledged member of the family. That is why, before asking parents to buy a puppy, the baby must honestly answer several questions:
- Is he disciplined enough?
- Do you like an active lifestyle?
- Is he doing well at school?
- Does he always keep his promises?
- is he responsible?
- Is helping around the house your favorite thing to do?
- Is he capable of sacrificing his own interests for the sake of someone else?
- does the whole burden of responsibility represent?
- Is he a fairly independent person?
Before you persuade your parents to get a dog, you need to make sure that all of the above questions have a positive answer, otherwise you need to think carefully about your own desire before you start “persuading” adults.
Before asking your parents for permission and bringing a dog into the house, you need to analyze your own strengths
Is it possible to convince your mother to let you wear what you want?
Yes, of course, these items of clothing are very necessary for small children, mind you, and only parents know best what needs to be bought. But children who are already 13-14 years old, especially girls, need to be given freedom of choice. They are especially picky at this age.
Is it good or bad to be a fashionista? To answer this question, answer another one. Why, exactly, should being a fashionista be bad? Nobody is doing anything illegal. And everything that is not illegal and approved by modern morality has the right to exist.
True, the grandmothers sitting on the benches know better what young people should wear. In their time, they didn’t wear short skirts and tops. What a disaster! And if you mention that the past also had its own “rare” accessories, then you can immediately “run into” harsh criticism of fashion representatives of past generations.
Relax, you just need to follow the latest fashion trends and have fun with it. There's just a little bit left to do. How to convince your parents to let you wear what you like? First, let's figure out in what cases it is worth doing this, and in which it is not worth it, and in which cases it will only cause the righteous anger of your parents.
So, if you decide to wear the following things and you are between 13 and 18, then it is better to just forget about it and not be upset. Everything is still ahead, at 18 years old no one will say a word to you about this. What are these things? Skirts that are too short (especially in the evening). This can lead to banal rape. Believe me, this fashion is not worth following. The time will come when you will be able to show off your clothes without unwanted consequences. Short tops also have a rather attractive effect on criminals. And in general, they are worn to the beach, not to a disco.
You might be thinking: “What is he talking about here? I have enough teachings at home.” Dear girls, understand that no one wishes you harm, especially some author of the article who has never seen you and will never see you. It's better to dress less provocatively.
Be fashionable and stylish. To be fashionable, follow these two rules. If you want to be stylish, don't imitate your friends and classmates, because... you have to be individual, even if you really like the things they wear. Style comes from individuality. Don't dress too provocatively; such fashion is not always good for you.
But in order to be stylish, you first need to somehow persuade your parents to buy you modern clothes. Very often, current fashion irritates them. This happens because the child does not want to wear what the parents offer. So, how do you convince your mom to let you wear what you want? More precisely, what should parents know about children's fashion? Inform them.
Children are divided into groups not only by interests, but also by clothing. By not following fashion, a child risks remaining an outsider, which will significantly reduce self-esteem
With the help of fashion, you can attract the attention of peers, especially the opposite sex, which is very important in adolescence. Fashionable clothing is a means of self-expression and individuality. Helps improve self-esteem
Helps improve self-esteem.
Therefore, dear adults, treat the fashion that your child wants to follow with understanding; he wants to choose for himself, not because everyone else does it, but because he is an individual.
Tags: clothing, teenagers, fashion, modern clothing
Why parents don't want to get a dog
There are several reasons why mom and dad categorically reject the idea of purchasing an animal:
- It takes a lot of money to maintain a dog;
- an allergy to wool may occur;
- a burden of additional responsibility for his life arises;
- loss of personal freedom;
- some breeds are complex and may not be trainable;
- Before any trip, you need to think about how and where to place the dog;
- there is a risk of property damage.
Important! Some parents are also afraid that their child may suffer childhood trauma if an accident happens to their pet.
The alternative is a very good option
Try to find out why, among the many pets, a child prefers a dog, because it is more trouble than, for example, a cat, a hamster or a parrot.
If the child does not change his mind about choosing a pet, you can offer an alternative - a virtual dog. It could be a large soft toy - a dog. For older children, a video game hero would be a good option.
But parents should also be responsible when choosing a video game. You shouldn’t take just anything, so as not to cause new problems to arise. There should be no violence or similar negative aspects in the game. On the contrary, the game should instill feelings such as compassion, kindness and care.
How to choose the right moment to talk
You should not choose a time to talk when mom and dad are busy. It would also be a bad time to have guests in the house.
It is best to choose evenings or weekends for conversation. A prerequisite is that mom or dad be in a good mood, otherwise the conversation will be doomed to failure.
A child who studies well, helps around the house and does not upset his parents with bad behavior increases the chances that his request will be answered positively.
Important! An excellent moment for conversation is the time after watching a movie about the life of our little brothers, because under the impression your loved ones may allow you to buy a dog, and you won’t even have to beg them.
The right moment for conversation will significantly increase the chance of approval from adults
Psychologist's comment:
To understand why parents are often against getting a dog, you need to understand how they think and what motivates them.
I must say that the life of your parents is not as simple as you think. Besides the fact that they take care of you, cook food, clean the apartment and do a bunch of other important things, they also need to work so that you have something to eat and you can live normally
But there is something else important. It may be hard to believe, but after your mom and dad have done all that work and are about to go to bed, they want to have at least a little time to themselves. A time when they could watch a good movie on TV or read an interesting book
Well, something like that. Usually, the older you get, the less time they have for this, but this is a very important time for any person, no matter how old he is.
A time when they could watch a good movie on TV or read an interesting book. Well, something like that
Usually, the older you get, the less time they have for this, but this is a very important time for any person, no matter how old he is.
Now let's look at your desire to have a dog. It would seem - what’s so special about this, since almost every family has a dog or cat? To understand why everything is not so simple, imagine that the pet you want to get is not an animal at all, but... a small child! A baby, like any pet, cannot take care of itself - it must be fed. This baby doesn’t really know how to control his urge to go to the toilet, doing his business anywhere and anytime, so you need to clean up after him - at least at first. Walks are very important for small children - it’s not for nothing that you can see so many women with strollers walking on the street for a long time - that is, you need to walk with them too, and so on.
In other words, getting a dog is a special matter, which, in terms of the level of responsibility, the emergence of new responsibilities and worries, can really be compared to what it would be like if you decided to become a mom or dad! Of course, this will take as much work and effort as in the case of a real child, but in fact the situations are very similar.
Now let's go back to your parents. When you ask them to get a dog, are you saying to them: “let me get myself a child, but you will take care of him”? For parents who have just begun to get you (and perhaps also your brother or sister) back on your feet, it’s hard to imagine more hopeless news - after all, if they agree, they will have a lot more worries, and they will still have time for themselves less!
Parents are designed in such a way that they will always consider you a child, regardless of your age. Therefore, the best thing you can do to get them to allow you to have a dog is to demonstrate that you are old enough to take care of not only yourself, but also someone else. If you can show them that you are ready to take responsibility for your words and actions, that you are ready not only to fulfill your personal responsibilities, but also to help your parents do their part, then this may convince them that having a pet is quite possible , and it won’t fall on their shoulders.
How to convince your parents to buy a dog
To convince parents to buy a four-legged friend, the child needs to prove that he is capable of caring for her. This argument will become powerful, but where to start? There are several rules:
- The child must prove that he is able to take care of himself first and foremost.
- If there is a problem with grades at school, they need to be corrected, because if a child tries and does not stay in the same class for the second year, then most likely mom and dad will meet him.
- Before you make an offer and try to “persuad” adults, you need to analyze the issue of purchasing a pet, namely, choose a suitable breed, study its characteristics and the intricacies of caring for its representatives.
Important! First of all, you need to start with yourself, because an obedient child will most likely agree to a meeting and the question of how to ask your parents for a dog will not become particularly difficult.
It is very important to prove to parents that a dog will unite the family and make it more active.
Introspection
Before you start begging adults to buy a puppy, you need to be aware of the consequences. After watching a touching film like “Beethoven” or “A Dog’s Life”, one can draw a not entirely correct conclusion about what the owner of a tailed pet has to do. Meanwhile, parents understand perfectly well that:
- A dog is a gigantic responsibility. It is difficult to find any other animal that is so in need of human attention. For example, recently it has been fashionable to own a husky. However, this breed does not do well in warm climates. He also feels the need to run many kilometers every day. Having a husky, you will need to forget about many things - the computer, phone and other gadgets, and completely devote your free time to the animal;
- The daily routine will change. If you have to force yourself to get up to school, then having a puppy, you will have to do it an hour earlier. After all, the animal needs to walk at least twice a day. Naturally, no one canceled the evening walk either, so lying down after school with a book or in front of a cartoon will no longer be possible;
- Maintaining order. The room is a mess, which means it’s too early to think about getting a dog. Not only is a lively four-legged animal a source of chaos, but all things that are within reach run the risk of being chewed. At first, the puppy may bite the school shoe and tear the diary to shreds. Therefore, it is better to immediately get used to order and take care of your clothes and shoes;
- Care. To keep your dog healthy, looking and smelling good, you need to constantly groom it. This means: taking him to the veterinarian, getting vaccinations, regularly bathing him, combing his hair, and monitoring changes in his health. This is not a toy that you can easily throw away if you stop liking it. This is a family member who, without careful supervision, may even die;
- Training. Dogs are quite smart animals. But in order to raise a protector and non-dangerous pet, you need professional skills. Otherwise, endless barking and obscene behavior will dramatically reduce the pleasure of the purchase.
There is no need to be upset if none of the methods work. Getting mom and dad to change a clear decision is sometimes difficult. A dog is not only the personal responsibility of the owner, but also another member in the family. And every resident must express consent. Often even the husband denies his wife such a desire, so endlessly begging and convincing adults is selfish and ugly. You can ask for another animal - a hamster or a cat - to demonstrate your ability to properly care for a pet.
Can you talk about the benefits of living with a dog?
Most parents are categorically against it when their child spends a long time at the computer, thus moving into the virtual world, in which it is so easy to live. They often share memories of what a wonderful childhood they had, where there was no place for the Internet. You need to take advantage of this moment and talk about the benefits of living with a pet. It is necessary to describe to them how the life of the family will change, naturally for the better.
It is best to emphasize that the family will become friendly, and all thanks to caring for a defenseless animal.
Benefits of living with a dog
Having a four-legged friend in the house has a number of advantages that parents must point out, for example:
- an active lifestyle, because with the appearance of a pet in the house, you will need to reconsider your usual lifestyle and focus on long walks;
- good mood, because there is simply no time to be bored with a dog;
- stress relief - the animal senses the mood of its owner and tries with all its might to help him overcome stress;
- the opportunity to become responsible;
- security.
Parents need to prove that the decision made is conscious and the dog will not become just a toy
How to prove your independence
If you are not yet ready for a serious conversation with your parents, you need to prove to them that you are already an adult and can take care not only of yourself, but also of your pet. First, take up your studies and improve your grades. It is necessary not only to correct twos and threes, but also to try to take part in an intellectual competition. And if you win an Olympiad in any subject (at least a school one), this will be a significant advantage.
In addition, parents need to help more around the house. Throw out the trash, vacuum, clear the table, wash the dishes, even when not asked. Show mom and dad that you are old enough to do many household chores. If your parents work, cook dinner for them - simple spaghetti will seem like a gourmet dish to them. By these actions you will show not in words, but in deeds, that you can keep your promises.
Every mother and every father wants to see their child happy. Here are a few ways to help melt your parents' practical hearts and finally buy you a dog.
- Tell Mom and Dad that having a dog will help you spend more time outside. Modern parents are very worried about the health of their children, because they devote all their free time to computers. Social networks, virtual games, the Internet simply do not let go of boys and girls, spoiling their vision, spine and psycho-emotional state. The possibility of long daily walks can bribe vigilant relatives.
- Tell your parents more about your future puppy. Tell us how you will play with him on the lawn, how you will bathe him after a walk, how you will frolic in nature, how he will go on vacation with you. Show your mom photos and videos of the breed of dog you dream of more often. Tell dad that a dog can be taught to fetch slippers, and it is a pleasure to train him.
- If there is a holiday coming up and your parents ask about a gift, don’t forget to mention that the best gift for you is a dog. There can be no alternative here - no “If not a dog, then roller skates.” Otherwise, you'll be left with roller skates. Say that a real gift for you would be a dog, real and alive. Don’t forget to write about this to “Santa Claus” if the New Year is ahead.
- Sometimes a strong argument for parents is security. Tell him that you are not afraid to walk with a dog, even in the dark. The dog will protect you from hooligans and ill-wishers.
- Ask your mom and dad if they had a dog as a child? If there was, they will probably smile when pleasant moments from childhood pop up in their heads. Ask your parents, if they had a dog, why don’t they let you have one? If there was no dog, they probably also dreamed of an animal in childhood. In this case, they will be able to make not only your dream come true, but also theirs.
- Don't pester your parents. There is no need to give ultimatums - adults don’t like that. Just stay true to your dream, from time to time reminding mom and dad of what is bothering you.
- There is one clever trick that will push parents to think about a dog. Tell mom and dad that none of the guys understand you, that you have a conflict with the class and you need a close and faithful friend.
All these methods can give real results, but not immediately, but after some time. Understand that parents must get used to this idea, understand that you really feel bad without a dog, and accept the possibility of having a puppy in the house. If all the methods used do not help, you can take extreme measures.
How to beg your parents for a dog
For a child who has a burning desire to become the owner of a dog, the question of how to beg a puppy from his parents becomes the most pressing. In this case, a simple experiment can help. To do this, you should ask one of your friends for a dog for the day and bring him home and take on the role of his owner. And you need to agree with your mother that if you manage to cope, then she will think seriously about purchasing a pet.
Important! After such an experiment, many children lose the thought of a pet, as they become aware of the whole burden of responsibility.
But what to do if your parents do not allow you to have a dog? In this case, you can take a risky approach - just bring home the dog.
Some parents cannot refuse their child, seeing his eyes filled with tears, and not everyone raises their hand to drive an animal out onto the street.
A dog will bring bright colors into a child’s life and make him more responsible.
Introducing parents to the idea
It is necessary to explain to parents that this pet is for the whole family. You can tell that if you get an animal, it will force the child to spend more time near the house, thereby keeping the family together.
It will be more fun at home with a dog, you can visit the park together or have family picnics with barbecue, and at the same time you can play flying saucer with your dog. Parents should imagine how good it would be to have a family dinner or watch a movie in front of the TV with a dog nearby.
Benefits of having a dog at home:
- When the pet is at home, the child will spend more time outdoors. Maybe the parents are tired of the teenager always being at home within four walls and playing computer games.
- Parents should understand that a dog will force their son or daughter to spend more time in the park in the fresh air, where he will engage in physical activity with the dog, instead of staying in one place at home.
- A dog strengthens the psyche. If the pet is at home, it causes a therapeutic effect. People who own animals tend to live longer and feel happier.
- The dog is able to understand when the owner is upset and can calm him down in stressful situations.
- On an intuitive level, the pet knows how to please the owner.
- If parents spend a lot of time at work, then you need to explain to them that the child needs a dog so that he does not feel lonely.
Possible reasons for refusal
There can be a lot of reasons here and the child should clarify them:
- Small living space. If the apartment is small, then you need to check with your parents whether they are planning to move in the near future. If there are no such plans and the dream of moving remains unfulfilled, you can get a small dog. Nowadays there are many breeds of toy dogs and they are common.
- Many parents think that after two months the child will get tired of the pet and the parents will have to take care of it. To some extent, adults are right about this, because many children do exactly this.
- If this is the reason, you will have to prove to the parents the seriousness of your own intentions and the ability to independently solve the dog’s problems.
- Allergy. This factor is very serious. If family members have the disease, an alternative breed can be found. For example, you can get a short-haired or hairless dog.
- No money. This argument is also serious. At first glance, you might come to the conclusion that having a pet is expensive. You not only need to buy a pet, but also subsequently spend money on its food, ammunition and veterinarian.
That in this case the child can independently save some of the money or look for a part-time job. If a teenager is seriously thinking about persuading his mother to buy a dog, he must put aside his childish whims and do not put pressure on his parents with hysterics or tears. You need to behave like an adult, talk seriously, present your arguments. In this case, diplomacy can help solve the problem in favor of the child.
How else can you convince your family to get a pet?
It can take a long time to persuade mom and dad to have a four-legged friend, but it’s best to help them decide to do this for this purpose:
- invite you to go to the shelter and tell them how noble it is to help an animal find a new home;
- choose or view a training course, but so that mom and dad see this process - let them see that their child is absolutely serious;
- become a volunteer at a dog shelter: this will help demonstrate the seriousness of your intentions.
Try to solve some problems yourself
It is important for you now to demonstrate the seriousness of your intentions, so that it becomes clear that this is not just another whim. Take the initiative, think about how to solve the problems associated with the appearance of a pet
This information will help you when you talk to family members about the animal and how to care for it:
- When it comes to furniture, say that you can buy special scratching posts. Your mustachioed friend will get used to using them and the interior items will remain unharmed. Or there are special plastic pads for the paws;
- Be sure to explain that you will take care of the animal yourself
. You can both remove the litter in the tray and feed it. The main thing is to say that this will not affect your studies in any way, but on the contrary, it will teach you to be disciplined; - If the fluffy ball accidentally leaves a puddle on the carpet or bed, then you already know that there are good odor removers. They will get rid of dirt and odors, and will discourage the cat from peeing in the wrong places. Non-harmful, but effective essential oils and flavorings are added to such liquids, which irritate the delicate sense of smell of Barsiks and Muroks.
The more information you collect, the more productive the conversation with your elders will be. They will see that you take the issue seriously and they simply will have nothing to object to.
What to do
To convince your parents of the seriousness of your intentions, you must first start with yourself. If a child studies well, knows how to take care of himself and is not averse to helping around the house, then in this case the likelihood that loved ones will make concessions will increase.
Important! If a request is refused, there is no need to throw tantrums and be offended, since such behavior demonstrates immaturity.
If all persuasion does not help, you can ask your grandparents for help
Your assistant
It has long been known that the appearance of a pet qualitatively improves the emotional aura in the family and even contributes to the healing of sick people. In addition, the appearance of a puppy or dog has a beneficial effect on children of any age.
By caring for a pet, your son or daughter learns responsibility, and this is one of the most important aspects of parenting. In fact, a dog is a good assistant in raising a child.
A way to get kids away from gadgets
If your child asks for a dog, don't resist it. When a small creature of any breed appears in the house, a lot of troubles arise: feeding, washing, combing, walking with the new family member.
The modern rhythm of life does not allow parents to devote much time to their children.
Considering that the average working day takes on average 8 hours a day, children are left to their own devices most of the time. Coming home and not feeling the pressure of their parents, they do not want to sit down to do their homework or do something useful. Your beloved child may remain in a relaxed and lazy state until the parents arrive. The appearance of a four-legged friend can change this order of things.
How having a dog can teach a child responsibility
The new chores that come with having a pet require effort and take quite a lot of time. Taking care of the dog can be shared among everyone. Playing with your pet, taking it for a walk, feeding it, brushing it, or taking it to a special dog club will be interesting and useful for everyone.
It is very important to convey to children that time spent with a pet is not only pleasure, but also an important activity that leads to excellent results.
To make it more clear, we can give an example. Children take an active part in raising and caring for the dog: feeding, playing, combing out tangles that come across from time to time. When the time comes for your dog's next examination by a veterinarian, it is better to take the little one with you too. Explain to children that a pet owes its health and good condition primarily to their care for it.
Having realized that they are part of such an important process, children will be happy and proud of their direct participation in such a good cause
Useful video
Watch an interesting and very useful video about what breed of dog to choose.
Asks for a dog: choosing a breed
So, doubts away. You have decided to get a dog. This is the right decision and of course there are many problems and troubles ahead, but all this will fade into the background when the children and the dog grow up together, helping each other.
One last question remains. Your child asks which dog breed to choose? A small dog is best; this is the best option for a city apartment. Look at the breed catalog on our website. Perhaps one of them will be your choice. And we, in turn, recommend these breeds as the best option.
- Chihuahua;
- Yorkshire Terrier;
- Pug;
- Bichon Frize.
Sports and part-time work
If a child is dependent on a computer and does not like to leave the house, then in this case the request will most likely be refused. This decision will be due to the fact that they will not want to take on the responsibility of caring for the pet as well.
If buying a dog is so desirable, the baby needs to change his lifestyle. It is best to focus on physical activity, because having a pet requires an active lifestyle.
If a child wants a certain breed, for example, a Spitz, Chihuahua, Yorkie or Jack, which are quite expensive and the parents are not able to pay for such a purchase, it is best to get a part-time job, for example as a volunteer. When the time comes to talk, an additional argument will be the availability of funds for the purchase.
Does a child need a dog?
One way or another, analyze the situation in the family and relationships with friends to understand whether the child needs a dog.
It is quite possible that the child has enough parental warmth and affection, but he is ready to show independence and begin to take care of himself and the pet. The kid understands that the dog will depend on him, which means he is responsible for ensuring that it is fed, walked, and healthy.
Why is it a dog that children ask for most often? The dog is an emotional and playful creature, it is pleasant to pet it, you can talk to it, as it reacts to words and senses the owner’s mood. Among the pets that children ask for, dogs and cats are the leaders.
Rarely do any children dream of turtles and fish. You can't share emotions with them. And cats are considered wayward pets; not everyone makes contact.
Which breed to choose and where to buy a dog
Before begging your loved ones for an animal, you need to choose a specific breed and decide where to buy it.
The question of how to persuade your mother to buy a dog can be greatly facilitated if during the conversation you offer to buy the breed that she likes so much.
It is best to choose breeds that can take care of children and love to play with them, such as Labradors, Collies, Shelties, Jack Russell Terriers, Pugs or German Shepherds.
It is strictly forbidden to allow a child to bring representatives of fighting breeds into the house.
It is also worth considering the place where the pet will live, whether it will be a house or an apartment, as well as its size. You can choose large and medium-sized breeds to keep in a house, but choosing a huge dog for an apartment is not recommended.
You can buy a four-legged pet either at a nursery or at a shelter, but in this case you need to ask the opinion of adults.
Before asking the parents for a puppy, you need to decide on a suitable breed in order to come up with a specific offer.
Three Essential Ingredients to Successful Persuasion
How to persuade your parents to buy a dog without it being a waste of time?
- Show the advantages of living with a dog
. Start with the fact that you will spend more time at home - this argument will definitely impress your parents. Note that with the “paw” you will begin to walk in the fresh air more often, finally looking away from the computer, you will be able to significantly increase your physical activity, and in the evening you can warm your feet in front of the TV on a living “hot water bottle”.If you have few friends, hint that this way you will never be lonely, and also emphasize the fact that a dog is a reliable defense against bullies in the absence of adults, especially if the family lives in a private house.
Finally, prove once again that you can become more responsible: strictly obey the daily routine, rest properly at night. One of the most important aspects of persuasion is specificity: it is not enough to say “I want a dog” - it is desirable that a specific breed and the main advantages of coexistence with it be named.
For example, the Labrador is very friendly and gets along well with children, and the Dachshund is almost the only one of its relatives that has a real sense of humor and has good watchdog abilities. Find out all the most interesting things about caring for and raising a pet, where and how to buy one, and unobtrusively tell your parents about it.
Destroy parental worries.
In this aspect, the main thing is not just to promise in words, but to prove that you can be trusted. To do this, tell us more about your plans: where and when the walks will take place, how you can organize the day so that your studies and other important matters do not suffer. If you have a sister or brother, arm yourself with their support and distribution of responsibilities.
In order to assure your mother of the safety of the furniture, tell her that you plan to buy special toys for the four-legged dog with your pocket money, and that you will carefully monitor dirty paws, hair on the carpets and the smell of the dog. Don't forget to consult your veterinarian first so you know how to take care of your dog's health.
If everything comes down to a financial issue, and the parents are not ready to shell out a round sum for a baby with a pedigree, say that you agree to take the animal from the shelter and allocate a certain amount of personal funds (for example, donated for the holidays) for food and care. To convince the father of the firmness of his decision, that the dog will not get bored over time, wait a few months and do everything to make the opposite appear.
Your persistence and individual approach to the issue will definitely bring positive results.
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What to do if parents don't buy a dog
The question of how to ask a mother for a dog is quite difficult. Sometimes it can take a long time to get the desired result. If persuasion does not work, then:
- you need to be patient, because sometimes it can take more than one year for loved ones to agree to allow you to bring a dog into your home;
- follow the chosen line of behavior: if a child tried to prove that he is an adult, but received a refusal to his request, there is no need to start studying with bad marks as a sign of protest.
Before begging your parents, you should soberly assess your own strengths, because caring for a dog takes quite a lot of time
Is it difficult to keep a rabbit in an apartment?
The author of the message, thanks to which this article was created, his parents do not allow him to have a rabbit. Therefore, this part of this publication lists the disadvantages of keeping a cute fluffy bunny: - you need to give the bunny fresh water through a special drinking bowl; rabbits turn over ordinary cups; — it is necessary to feed the eared fish with fresh vegetables and special dry food; when there are a lot of fresh vegetables, the bunny may experience diarrhea; if dry food predominates, the bunny may suffer from constipation; — you need to give the rabbit vitamins and mineral stone; - the rabbit should have a large enclosure, and not a small cage, because his muscles hurt due to constant stay in one place; he needs to stretch his legs by running around the enclosure; - a rabbit needs a lot of hay as bedding and food; - when the eared one is sick, it needs to be treated; but there are also incurable diseases, and you have to watch the animal slowly die; - rabbits chew curtains, carpets, cables, shoes and, in general, everything that gets in their way; - a rabbit bite is like a cut with a very sharp knife - deep and strong, long healing; a rabbit can easily cut off part of an adult’s finger with its teeth or bite off a small child’s finger; - Rabbits do not sleep at night and make a lot of noise.
To understand why parents do not allow you to have a pet, you need to delve into the intricacies of keeping it. That is, you should imagine what you will need to do every day. We have had four rabbits in the last twenty years. The first dwarf was given to us by people who kept him in a small cage. There was hay lying there so that the rabbit sat all the time with his head bowed. After all, he couldn’t do it any other way—the roof of the cage was in the way. The rabbit was very happy that he could run all over our apartment when he came to us. He was tame, kind and very handsome. He died of a cold. Veterinarians do not allow rabbits to be bathed. We didn't do that. But one day we took him to the lake to run around in nature. He decided to run near the water. Therefore, he got wet, and a small breeze was enough to make him catch cold. Having fallen ill, the bunny ran in circles around the house and could not calm down. The doctor said that this cannot be treated, gave him an injection for fever and that’s all. The bunny died within 24 hours, running around the cage in circles. We felt very sorry for him, and we really regretted taking him out into the wild.
Then we got two dwarf rabbits, red and brown, whose parents were purebred animals. The rabbits were a friendly team. But in the apartment they gnawed at everything, so we bought them a huge two-story house-aviary, which occupied a quarter of the room. The bunnies were satisfied, well-fed and happy. But one day the red rabbit died. The doctor never established the reasons. Then we decided to get another pet - to buy a red girlfriend for the brown rabbit. And then we were faced with the problem of relationships between rabbits. We quickly figured out what to do and placed the little red one on the top floor and the brown one on the bottom floor. When the baby grew up, she became the head of the hare's house and forced the older rabbit to respect her.
The new pet that we thought of getting settled in and everything was fine. But one day the baby developed a tumor under her paw. The veterinarian said that it is incurable and can only be removed with surgery. As it turned out, this disease in rabbits is considered congenital, and that the rabbit’s parents were carriers of this disease. Each tumor in a rabbit is removed either by a surgeon or by the rabbit himself. The veterinarian recommended that we leave the rabbit alone so that the bunny could clean up its own boils.
We helped her at first, carefully removing the fatty filling with a sterile napkin when she opened the tumors with her teeth. But rabbits are wayward creatures and do not allow interference in their affairs. Therefore, over time, she began to clean her boils on her own. There was no strength to look at it. But we couldn’t figure out what to do, because the veterinarian said that it was useless and harmful to constantly subject the bunny to surgical intervention. I felt so sorry for the bunny, and the veterinarian was so angry that he could not do anything. As a result, the red-haired beauty became sideways due to tumors, and then died when she was three years old. The brown rabbit lived longer than all the others - more than nine years.
With dwarf rabbits it is not as easy as it seems at first glance. Therefore, before you get a fluffy dog, you need to think a hundred times. Rabbits require constant care. Many of these animals do not allow themselves to be touched. Rabbits smell strongly, especially when their menu consists of cabbage, rapeseed, radishes, radishes and other similar types of vegetation. If there is an abundance of fresh herbs, cucumbers, or when a bunny eats a green salad, he may experience severe diarrhea. If a pet receives only dry food, it may suffer from constipation and even die.
In the last two years of his life, our brown rabbit suffered from constipation simply due to old age. We had no idea what to do about it, because he received food in the right proportions. Often the rabbit's feces would stick to his tail. We had to, as the veterinarian advised us, soak the dirt on his tail and wash it all off. And because the sawdust, or, better said, the dust in it caused the rabbits to runny nose, we had to buy them hay as bedding. The straw is too rough for their delicate paws. Rabbit food is not cheap, and neither is hay. What can we say about the enclosure. By the way, we had to throw away a lot of things that were chewed by the rabbits when they ran away from the house or walked around the apartment with our permission.
There are also advantages to keeping rabbits. They may seem convincing to parents. By purchasing a rabbit, a person receives: - a cute animal that you can hold in your arms, calming the mind, nervous system and psyche; - a cheerful stomper who lifts the mood with his actions.
In principle, this is all that can be cited as a positive thing coming from rabbits. Although lovers of these animals could add more points. They have this opportunity to leave a complementary comment on this post.
I would not like to recommend that a girl seeking advice convince her mother to get a pet. Although in her case she will have to do this, because the rabbit has already been purchased. But still, rabbits are not living creatures that are suitable for keeping in an apartment. It's stupid to think that they fit in a cage. After all, these animals need to run and jump in a spacious enclosure. When walking in the apartment, they can chew on everything, and first of all, cables. If you buy a harness for a rabbit and walk it on the lawn, there is a high chance that it will catch the virus or that a dog will attack it.
Dwarf rabbits often get sick. Moreover, their diseases cannot be triggered, otherwise the rabbit will die. And some diseases of rabbits, in general, cannot be cured, wondering what to do if the veterinarian is unable to help. You need to monitor your rabbit's diet to keep it healthy. A decorative rabbit is not a toy, but a big responsibility. Some aggressive rabbits will not allow you to touch them and will bite. In this case, thoughts will arise that the parents were right when they did not allow them to buy a bunny.
Advice for children: how to persuade parents to get a dog
There is no need to give up, you need to believe in your own dream. Mom and dad should see to what extent a four-legged pet is a welcome gift for their child. With the help of paintings, you can convey your dream: draw pictures in which the dog will be present, and give them to your loved ones: such an act will certainly attract the attention of adults. Do not forget that parents were also children once and perhaps also dreamed of a puppy. They need to be reminded of this. You can also ask for such a birthday gift.
Advice. If all this does not help and mom and dad are still against it, sometimes it’s worth reminding of your desire, choosing the right moment for this.
A dog is a reliable, faithful and best friend, caring for which is a rather painstaking process. The decision to get an animal should be balanced and deliberate, because it is not a toy, but a living creature that also needs love, games, food and care.
Do you know what responsibility this is?
Probably now we will list what mom and dad have already explained to you. But this is really extremely important to realize:
- With the advent of a four-legged friend, your life will change. He needs to devote time and engage in education. Now every morning you get up in any weather and take your pet for a walk, feed him and wash him if he came back from a walk dirty;
- A puppy is touching. You can play with him, he welcomes you home and wags his tail, funnyly burying his muzzle in his knees. But besides the pleasant moments, this is the dirt that you will have to clean up when, for example, he gets sick and vomits;
- Now you have to be at home more often and you can no longer go out with friends whenever you want. If this is a puppy, he will be afraid to be left alone, and if left, he will spoil everything while waiting for his owner. Therefore, you will either have to take your pet with you, or negotiate with each other who will stay as the nanny.
Yes, a dog is a considerable responsibility. And we are not telling you this to scare you. You must understand and realize that there is a living and helpless creature nearby, the care of which will fall on your shoulders.
What not to do
Inexperienced owners, trying to accustom a dog to a cat, make serious mistakes.
To quickly make friends with your pets, you should not make the following mistakes:
It is prohibited to put pressure on animals, forcing them to communicate.
You cannot give one animal more attention than the other. Some owners deliberately single out their pet
Others unknowingly neglect one pet. As a result, the animal feels like an outcast and begins to be jealous, provoking conflicts.
In the event of a quarrel, it is prohibited to punish the initiator of the fight
At the initial stage of accustoming a dog to a cat, conflicts will inevitably break out between animals. The owner must notice the emerging quarrel in time and extinguish it. In a cat, swearing causes a desire to take revenge; in a dog, a long-term fear arises.
It is prohibited to have animals in cramped living conditions. Each pet should have its own resting place and enough space to move around.
It is prohibited to leave animals alone. Attacks of aggression often come out of nowhere and calm can quickly escalate into a fight. Animal behavior is unpredictable and the owner must control the pets.
Dogs are more active and sociable. To prevent them from pestering their furry neighbor, they should not be limited in walks and active games.
We recommend reading:
- We teach the dog to stop picking up everything on the street
- Training or education of dogs
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How to make friends between an adult dog and a kitten, 8 rules for a peaceful neighborhood
Adult dogs are often friendly towards kittens.
But increased attention can frighten the baby
To ensure that the introduction of pets goes smoothly and without damage to the kitten’s psyche, it is advisable to pay attention to the following points:
Exchange of smells. Before the kitten arrives, it is recommended to give the dog something that smells like the baby, so that his appearance is not regarded as a threat. At first, it is better to isolate pets in separate rooms, organizing daily meetings for them. This makes it easier for animals to become accustomed to each other’s smell and make friends.
Adding cat scent. If the dog is aggressive or older, a few weeks before the expected arrival of the kitten, it is recommended to use special pheromones that emit a cat scent. This way the dog will stop stressing and will accept his new neighbor more loyally.
Separate feeding. Dogs are jealous of their own food and in order not to heat up the situation, it is advisable to separate the eating area. Subsequently, the old-timer is recommended to give food first.
A safe place for a cat. It is advisable for each pet to have its own corner. It is recommended to place the kitten's place higher so that the dog cannot reach it. If the owner does not take care of this issue, the animals will deal with the rest areas on their own, which will lead to a deterioration in relations. Prepare “safe places” where your cat can run and hide from your dog when he feels threatened.
Obedience training. Your dog needs to be taught that chasing cats is not acceptable behavior. Teach your dog basic commands such as sit, stay and down. Then it will be easier for you to reconcile the cat and dog.
Interaction control. You should only allow interactions under your supervision, especially in the first few weeks after your cat and dog have just met.
Desensitization. The goal of desensitization is to reduce your dog's reaction to your cat through constant exposure
Separate them temporarily with a fence so they can see each other and sniff, but try to distract the dog's attention with toys and food so that the dog is not fixated on the cat. Over time, the dog will lose interest in cats.
You can't scold your dog too much
The fact is that the dog may understand that he is being scolded because of his relationship with the cat and will pursue the cat even more. Try to encourage a positive attitude between them.
Desensitization of dogs and cats
You cannot scold or punish a dog for aggression. It is enough to strictly explain to the animal that it is not good to offend the baby. An adult dog usually does not want to harm the baby, but it is better not to risk it
The owner must equally distribute attention between the animals and organize a joint game
If you can't buy a pet
If persuasion and other extreme methods do not help, then you can try extreme measures. The result of such a decision is very difficult to predict, but if a teenager is willing to take a risk, then you can bring the pet home yourself. If adults see their child with eyes full of tears and a cute animal in his arms, then many adults may abandon their own beliefs and allow him to keep the pet. But where can I get it:
- If it is not possible to pick up a puppy on the street or this option is not suitable for the child, then you can visit the shelter and pick up the animal from there.
- There are several shelters in each city, and as a rule, they are all overcrowded.
- By taking the puppy home, the teenager will do a good deed.
- It is necessary to agree in advance with the kennel workers about the possibility of returning the dog if the adults do not allow him to be left at home.
You can talk to your friends and ask them if maybe a dog has given birth and the puppies need to be placed. It is necessary to understand that a child can only get an ordinary mongrel on his own, and not a purebred dog. You need to pay a decent amount for a purebred dog, but you can subsequently earn income from a famous puppy if you breed and sell its puppies. It is worth understanding that an ordinary mongrel will give a lot of joy and happiness.
Errors and prohibited actions
Inexperienced owners often do not understand what to do in a given problem situation and make mistakes. The most common mistakes and prohibited actions include:
- Incorrect feeding. If the bowls are nearby, then someone will definitely try to steal part of someone else's portion.
- Uncontrolled first acquaintance. It is dangerous to let a cat interact freely with a dog, as this can cause a serious fight and severe injuries.
- Lack of separate space. Mustachioed household members are introverts by nature. They are tired and irritated by prolonged communication, so attacks of aggression are possible. It is advisable to provide your cat with a comfortable bed on a hill.
- Petting. A fight that happens once will be remembered by the pets forever. The owner's incorrect reaction (punishing only one pet or rewarding both) will provoke a repetition of the situation.
- Scolding and punishment for a negative attitude towards a neighbor. Punishing one pet because it is not yet accustomed to the second pet is a pointless and harmful activity. This will only increase the level of jealousy and lead to new conflicts.
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It is important to understand that animals always remain animals, so conflict situations cannot be completely avoided. Often fights between individuals of different ages will occur for educational purposes.
The owner needs to recognize excessive aggression in time and prevent its repetition in the future.
Causes of enmity between dogs and cats
train a dog and a cat to live in an apartment or house
Dogs and cats are representatives of different families of the same order. Animals have specific behavioral characteristics and almost opposite types of temperament.
According to research, cats are not afraid of dogs. Aggression and attempts to avoid contact are effective ways to stop unwanted attention.
Cats have an independent character and love privacy. They value personal space and do not tolerate encroachments. Dogs, on the other hand, are considered social animals that seek company. Because of this, conflicts often break out between dogs and cats.
Cats and dogs also interpret body language differently:
- The cat regards light pushes of the skull and intense sniffing as an attempt to invade personal space. Such behavior causes aggression in the animal and a desire to grab the dog’s face.
- A dog's tail wagging means joy from an upcoming walk, meeting the owner, or seeing a toy. In this way, a cat expresses the highest degree of irritation and demonstrates its readiness to attack. Before a fight, the animal vigorously wags its tail and lashes its sides.
- Tight ears and a low head are interpreted by cats as a readiness to attack. In dogs, a similar pose means an admission of guilt. The dog understands that he deserves punishment and tries to appease the owner, demonstrating submission in advance.
- Cats purr to express the highest degree of satisfaction. The quiet, guttural growl of a dog means its readiness to attack and defend itself.
The dog unconsciously creates an intimidating impression on the cat. Frightened, she begins to run, awakening the hunting instincts in the dog.
How to make friends with kids: kitten and puppy
The ideal option is when both pets were taken into the house as babies at the same time. Animals, only separated from their mother, will begin to look for understanding and support in each other. Due to their age, puppies and kittens cannot sleep alone and begin to instinctively cuddle each other in their sleep. Together they adapt faster and easier to their new home.
Also, a puppy and a kitten will be brought together by joint pranks and games. The kids will explore the world around them together, which will help them make friends.
Even if at the first meeting the puppy and kitten show dissatisfaction with the presence of their neighbor, it will disappear after a few hours. After sniffing, the kids will quickly get used to it and make friends.
Important! Left alone, the kitten and puppy can get carried away with games and mischief. Therefore, children should not be left to their own devices for a long time.
How to spot your child’s future four-legged friend in a small puppy?
So how to choose a dog for a child that will become a loyal friend and playmate? First of all, you should contact a good nursery, an experienced breeder who will help you choose a puppy. A puppy, which (with proper training) will grow into an excellent family dog, has a strong psyche since childhood and does not show aggression. When meeting new people, he happily wags his tail, does not try to hide, does not whine, does not bite his hands and does not try to bite the “aliens” on the face. The last point is extremely important - experienced breeders teach puppies from small claws that biting a person is a strict taboo! Such dogs are easier to raise, and the child is safer with them, since they already know that their teeth should not be used under any circumstances!
A simple test will determine how dominant a dog is: place the puppy on its back and lightly press on its chest. A cowardly dog will whine, shake, and try to run away. A puppy prone to aggression will growl, try to break free and bite your hand. A puppy with a normal psyche will lie calmly on its back, looking at you with interest, not trying to run away, not whining, not struggling, not trying to bite.
According to psychologists, a dog teaches children to be responsible, teaches them to be kinder and more forgiving, and develops curiosity and sociability in the child. Children living in a house where there is a dog are less likely to suffer from allergies and are less likely to grow up selfish. But we must not forget that you are buying a dog for yourself, not for a child. Only with this approach will the dog bring joy and a lot of positive emotions to “his” family.
Author of the article: Yurchenko O.V.
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How to make friends with adult animals
How to make friends between an adult dog and a cat
It is very difficult to accustom adult animals to coexistence, but it is quite possible. At first, the dog will begin to perceive the cat as an object for play or hunting.
Therefore, it will take a long time to separate the animals. If it is not possible to place your pets in separate rooms, it is recommended to buy an indoor aviary.
When first meeting the dog, it is advisable to keep the dog on a leash and muzzle. The animals will probably limit themselves to visual contact and refuse to sniff. You should not let the dog get close to the cat, otherwise the cat will decide that it is being attacked and will begin to defend itself.
It is recommended to organize further communication between pets at a distance to avoid a possible fight. If conflict between animals cannot be avoided, it is advisable to tie the dog and force it to sit on command. It is recommended to calm an angry cat with a voice and gentle stroking. Such actions will help relieve tension and resolve conflict.
To accustom a dog to a cat, it is recommended to reward any manifestation of goodwill with a treat. But you can feed animals in one place only after good neighborly relations have been established between them. Competition for food can cause serious conflict.
How to make friends between an adult cat and a puppy
Adult cats often perceive puppies aggressively.
To protect the new resident from the sharp claws of the old-timer, the animals are initially isolated in different rooms. Then the cat will not scratch the curious, playful puppy, who will probably become excessively active.
It is recommended that animals have separate places for feeding and sleeping. The cat will quickly get bored with the puppy’s pestering and will want to retire. Therefore, the owner must regulate the time the pets communicate and limit it.
If personal boundaries are violated, the cat will hiss for a long time at the new neighbor. If the puppy does not climb into her bowls, bed and tray, she will quickly get used to his presence.
In what cases should you not take risks?
Sometimes there are situations when it is better not to bring together individuals from different families. For example, some hunting and guard dog breeds, especially in adulthood, have almost zero probability of accepting a kitten. In this case, attacks of aggression and attempts to bite the baby are inevitable. There are known situations when a hunter, under the influence of instincts, tried to kill a helpless kitten.
Large single cats behave no better, especially in relation to small breed dogs. Thus, an adult mustache will never stop trying to scratch or bite a toy terrier. Such frequent attacks of aggression will make life unbearable for a smaller creature.
Introduction and subsequent meetings
The choice of dating method depends entirely on the age of the animals living nearby. However, there are general rules that will help make the first meeting and subsequent living together within the same apartment or house more comfortable:
- There is no need to rush to introduce animals to each other. A new member of the household needs to get used to foreign smells and unfamiliar surroundings.
- At the time of introduction, it is better to keep the cat in a carrier and the dog on a leash. This way they will smell each other, but will not be able to injure each other.
- During the first weeks, animals should not be left in the same room unattended. If the owner needs to leave on business, the pets are seated in different rooms.
Making friends with pets that are different in behavior and character is very difficult. Only care, affection and patience will help a person cope with this task.
Choosing pets according to breeds
There are some pets that get along well with all family members. Sometimes they quarrel over trifles, but more often they play, have fun or relax together.
Cat breeds that get along with dogs
Among the representatives of the cat family, there are quite a few breeds that coexist well in the same territory with other cats, dogs and ferrets. If you want to have a mustachioed friend, and there is already a dog living in the house, then it is better to take a closer look at the following breeds:
- American Shorthair;
- Abyssinian;
- Siberian;
- Bombay;
- Maine Coon;
- Japanese Bobtail;
- ragdoll;
- Tonkinese
These curious and energetic furbabies love to spend time with everyone in the family. They will happily play with their relatives, people or four-legged friends. But we must remember that each cat has individual character traits that it can demonstrate at any time.
Dog breeds that get along with cats
By nature, dogs are pack animals, making it much easier for them to get along with people or pets. However, there are some breeds that will be especially happy to communicate with a mustachioed neighbor and even recognize him as a brother or sister. The most good-natured breeds towards cats:
- golden retriever and labrador;
- Bichon Frize;
- pug;
- papillon;
- Cavalier King Charles Spaniel;
- Maltese;
- basset hound;
Playful and good-natured dogs of the above breeds easily get along with purrs. They react quite calmly even to the irritable nature of fluffies and try to avoid conflict situations.
Conclusion
Peace and tranquility in a house where different pets live together depends on many circumstances. First of all, the age of the pets is important. The ideal option is to purchase a puppy and a kitten at the same time, but communication between individuals of different ages can be unpredictable. The task of a loving owner is to organize the first meeting and further residence of the four-legged animals without conflicts and jealousy.